It changes who we are, who we become. We are left wanting to hide from you if you can’t get over the fact that our lives have been forever changed.
This blog post was inspired by a comment I received in response to my post, Somewhere Over The Rainbow, by Patricia of My Journey Into Darkness. A part of her first comment was,” If only abuse had been reported… if only abuse had been reported.” And a part of her second comment was, ” People don’t understand why you don’t just get over it”
Can we learn to manage what happened to us? Yes! But everyone could make that so much easier if they could get over the idea that abuse is something you just get over.
In all actuality abused individuals do a better job surviving abuse than society does in managing their views of and responses to abuse. So everyone needs to get over all of their notions about us just getting over it.
We are alive, we have survived. Everyone needs to understand how brave and remarkable it is that we managed to do that. Expecting us to feel loved or valued is a huge leap.
So, if anyone wants to be even remotely helpful, you need to first get over the notion that abuse is something you just get over.