I have been reading articles and blogs for a very long time where people keep asking the question, “How can anyone vote for someone like Trump with what he has said about women?” I want to answer this question.
First let me say, I did not vote for Trump and I don’t disagree with anything I hear others say about him. This was actually the first presidential election since I became an adult that I did not vote. So I hear you and I am not disagreeing with you, but I do want to answer the question of how people could vote for him.
I remember sitting in my Psychology class while the professor asked the students what they thought about Bill Clinton and his behavior. The classroom was filled with women and everyone spoke up freely and said that what he did in his personal life had NO effect on his presidency. Even the women in the classroom said what he does in his private life is none of our business. NO ONE CARED… not the women or the men in the entire classroom.
They said all of this even though what he did was not just in his personal life. He did these things on the job in the Oval Office. But no one cared. They all laughed and thought it was ridiculous that anyone would care. It was no big deal.
I sat there stunned and silenced. I already felt unsafe, and this added to my fears and lack of safety in this world. I no longer just feared men, but this increased my fear of women and their part in the disrespect and abuse of women.
To give you a little background of where I was at the time, I had recently divorced my psychopathic ex-husband who was abusive to both me and my children. I was in therapy during this time for the sexual abuse I had experienced for years as a child, as well as the abuse I experienced as an adult woman. And after several years of trusting this therapist (whose wife worked for the Rape Crisis Center), I was abused by my therapist. During one of my sessions, when I walked into the room and turned to sit down, I heard the click of the lock on the door… and then was raped by my therapist. This classroom experience happened just after the rape.
At the time, I was struggling to remember what class I just came out of and what class I had next. I was having panic attacks and trying to finish my last semester in order to graduate. I never could have imagined that I was going to have to fight this hard and study and take tests under such horrific circumstances going on in my life.
I was in no position to speak up… I couldn’t. I was drowning in pain and sorrow and fear. I went from one place of hell into another. And all the women around me in that room were supporting Bill Clinton. They didn’t mind what he did to other women, they didn’t even mind if his wife, Hillary, bashed the women he abused and supported him. And most men either thought or said out loud, “All I can say is, I wish I could have just five minutes with Monica!”
I heard these same reactions outside of the classroom as well!
Imagine if you can, how I felt. And how it makes me feel right now as I write this. So, yes, all of this affects me deeply. And maybe I have been silent for way too long.
So if anyone wants to know how men and women have been able to vote for Trump, it is because of what the left taught us all during the Clinton presidency. And by the way, Clinton didn’t just talk vulgar about women, he acted out his vulgarity against women and probably still is today. And the left still welcomes him and Hillary with open arms. And if Trump hadn’t won, Hillary would be President. And well, we wouldn’t even be having these conversations.
One of the reasons we are not getting anywhere with these types of discussions is because from the outside looking in, it doesn’t seem as though we really care about this issue unless the guy is on the opposite political party that we support.
If we are going to have these discussions and we really want change then we need to keep it honest, or else we just look like hypocrites too. And everything we are saying to or about the Republican Party is being met with deaf ears because all they hear is a bunch of hypocrites trying to use this issue for their own political agenda. And for many, this isn’t too far from the truth.
Honesty, laying all the cards on the table, is the ONLY way to really be believed that we as women actually even care about this issue too. We have to be upset and stand up against such behavior no matter what political party is abusing women.
So do men need to wake up? Yes. But so do women when it comes to this issue, or else we seem just as disingenuous as the very men we are speaking out against and to.
So no, I don’t believe everyone is really even upset that Donald Trump is a narcissist. I think people are upset because he is an overt narcissist. I think people are upset because he is not their narcissist. No one on the left has minded at all the years of covert narcissists that have been on the left. They actually think it was quite charming.
So if you want to know how and why people voted for Trump, it isn’t really all that hard to figure out. Many of the people bashing him are the very ones who helped to get him elected. People on the right are fed up with the hypocrisy of the left… the party of supposed compassion and tolerance. If we learned anything over the past eight years of the former presidency, these are only words used to manipulate and silence anyone who does not agree with them.
And the evidence of this has been seen in their response to Trump’s presidency. Where were all of you when the right felt every bit as worried and fearful as you do now when your man was in office?
No one gathered around the right to try and bring them in and make them feel heard and accepted. All the right received was more dissension and if they opened their mouths to speak at all, they were called racists and terrorists. So no, they don’t believe you really care about this issue, not at all. Most people think you only care because he is not on the right side, or should I say the left side, of politics.